The Secret to a Happy Marriage

WARNING - This post is a tad-bit racy and is therefore rated PG-13

There are A LOT of factors in a successful marriage, but in my opinion the top three are as follows: 

1. Communication (You need to be able to speak openly with your partner)
2. Understanding (You need to be able to understand what your partner is saying/doing)
3. SEX (Lets face it, this one does not need an explanation)

With that being said, I'm not here to rant about how communicating and understanding are the secret to a good marriage, it's really the sex.  To the couples that have sex once a week, do you realize that you're only doing the deed 52 times a year? Out of 365 days... that's not even half! And to those couples that are every other week or even once a month, why are you even married if you're not going to reap the benefits of having a lifelong partner?  not really sure WHAT is wrong with you to say.

I'm not saying have sex everyday (although my husband is probably wishing I would) but at minimum twice a week-- personally I usually get a little "fussy" by day three with no "O" face. 

So lets take a step back and talk about this. Just you and I - blogger to bloggee. Why sex is so important in a successful marriage. 

#1 - Make Time: Sex is healthy, I mean really healthy. Sex relieves stress, boosts immunity, burns calories, improves heart health, improves self esteem, improves intimacy, and helps you sleep better.  So do yourself a favor and make time for a little whoopy. The average "sack session" only lasts about 12 minutes, so even if you're "too tired" or "too busy" just DO IT! He doesn't care if you have polar bear legs or you just got back from the gym. Trust me, and if anything do it for your heart health, because that's some serious stuff. But why are we even debating this when we both know it's going to end happily?

#2 - Switch it Up: Having one partner for the rest of your life should NOT scare you, being in one position for the rest of your life should. Seriously. Switch it up.  Cosmopolitan isn't one of the top women's magazines for nothing! I'm not saying do some crazy shit and go all Kama Sutra, but flip over at least. ALSO - beds are boring. Nothing says good morning or puts a smile on your face like a soapy session. Be creative, I hardly doubt that you will get a divorce because you wanted to be adventurous. 

#3 - Compromise: Communication and understanding apply to every aspect of  your relationship, especially even in the bedroom. What I'm saying is Christmas is not the only time for giving and receiving. Just remember - there is no I in TEAM. And that's what you are, you're a team. 

Taking another step back, these three rules (Make Time, Switch it Up, and Compromise) can be used in every aspect of your relationship. Don't just make time for doing the dirty, make time for your partner, whether it's a dinner date, talking about your day, or some late night cuddling watching reruns, make time. Switch up your routine, the woman doesn't have to cook dinner every night and the man doesn't have to always take out the trash, you're both adults so switch it up. And compromise, this one speaks for itself. Marriage is not about keeping tabs, as a team you should both be happy with the decisions that are made, and if you're not than you need to start playing nice and learn to compromise.
OH AND LAUGH. Really if you take nothing else away from this post, the secret to a happy marriage is laughter and sex. 

And for the men reading this: Yes, we know you like our butts, but slapping them as hard as you can every chance you get is not something we look forward to on a daily basis. When we say "Ow!" it is usually genuine. 

This is my last post until after the
 Holiday Weekend, so have yourself a
Merry little Christmas
from our family to yours.